This is how you earn respect
This is how you earn respect
Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. If you want to have friends, partners, or colleagues who trust and support you, you need to learn how to earn respect.Respect isn’t something that you can demand from someone; it’s something they offer you in response to your actions and words. We all want to be respected, whether that’s from our colleagues, friends or peers, but it’s something that needs to be earned.
1. Be Your Authentic Self
It’s better to be who you truly are than a person you think that others want you to be. People try too hard to be someone else or who they think people want to look up to. Putting on a façade and trying to be someone else is a surefire way to ensure people see right through you.
2. Stop Being Too Nice
There’s a difference between being kind and having people walk all over you. When you try to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one. If you can’t stand up for yourself will guarantee people won’t have respect for you.
3. Learn How To Say NO
Knowing how to say no is an underrated skill. You don’t need to do things that people ask you to do, whether that’s at work or at home! You might be guilt tripped but you need to stand strong in your beliefs.
4. Stop Apologizing For No Reason
I’m sorry is an overused statement. If you’ve made an honest mistake that affects someone else, that’s something to apologize for. But saying sorry left and right without a reason will earn you no respect.
5. Treat Yourself With Respect
How can you expect others to respect you, if you don’t respect yourself? Negative self talk, self harm, excessive substance use and laziness are just some of the ways we may abuse ourselves.
6. Stand By Your Word
People don’t like others who are dishonest or not reliable. If you’re going to be late or not be able to make a meeting, call and let the person know. Come through on your promises and stay true to your word. When you tell someone that you’re going to do something, make sure that you do it.
7. Don’t Badmouth Others
I once heard that great minds talk about ideas while poor minds talk about others. It’s a simple rule. Don’t gossip or talk negatively about people behind their backs. It reflects poorly on you as a person and only serves to hurt you and that person.
8. Don’t Waste Other People’s Time
People will never respect you if you don’t respect their time. Showing up late for meetings or appointments and spending meeting time talking about things that aren’t on point will drive a lot of people mad.
9. Speak Up When You or Others are Mistreated
Chances are either you or someone you know has been mistreated. How did you respond? When you see someone being mistreated or if someone is mistreating you, it’s time you stand up and voice your thoughts.
10. Anticipate The Needs Of Others
Have you ever done something for someone without being asked? Doing things for others can give us purpose but it also shows that you’re a considerate person. Taking initiative to help others will earn you the respect you desire.
11. Offer To Help, Even If You’re Not Expected To
Whether it’s supporting people in your community or helping family or friends, being there for others is an excellent way to earn respect.
12. Control Your Emotions
There’s a difference between responding and reacting. When we’re in a high emotional state, our first reaction may to give an emotional response. We have to learn how to curb out emotions and respond in a way that will move things forward.
13. Be Good At What You Do
Competence leads to confidence and confident people get the respect they deserve. By improving every day and gaining experience, you can establish yourself as an authority in any subject and command respect from your peers.
14. Be Inspiring
People respect those that they look up to. By becoming the best version of yourself, mastering different skills and being an active part of the community you can inspire others.
We all want respect from our peers and getting real respect takes real work. It’s a two way street with respect being a direction reflection of how you treat others I’d also recommend checking out the book Leadership: The Power of Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman – you can pick it up here:
